7 hot fantasies of men and women
“Sexual fantasies and real sex coexist on different levels, which is why there are few couples whose relationship survives the transition from the perfect world of fantasy to the imperfect world of reality,” says Tracey Cox, speaking to the British Daily Mail. She even goes on to say that “fantasizing about sex is completely normal, and acting on a fantasy can even improve your relationship.”
A columnist and best-selling author on sex and sexual health, he also emphasizes that “fantasizing about sex is completely normal, and acting on a fantasy can even improve your relationship.” So keep an open mind to both your fantasies and your sex and watch your relationship renew itself!
The frequency of fantasies in numbers
Having extensively studied the subject of fantasies, the author notes that “research has shown that 90% of women and 96% of men have daily fantasies about sex, which for the vast majority of both sexes remain a lifetime. which exactly they are: fantasies”. Fantasies are only a problem when they are not expressed or shared with our partners.
Anxiety, worry or insecurity that the particular fantasy will shock or offend our relationship usually prevails. Depending on the fantasy, the lines between pleasure and infidelity are narrow. So let’s look at the 7 hottest fantasies of men and women, from the most special to the most fearless for your relationship:
1. Secret sex with someone else when you have sex
We begin with a shocking estimate that claims that “80% of people in monogamous, long-term relationships often fantasize heavily about another person when they have sex with their significant other.” Certainly disturbing and strange, and author Cox warns: “When this particular fantasy begins to occur with great frequency, and at the same time, when this person is often associated with, then the risk of daydreaming becoming action and infidelity is enormous.” So fantasize about whoever you want when you have sex, but be careful not to let the desire become so great that it leads to an act of infidelity!
2. Sex with many people
A mainly male fantasy since it seems that mostly men dream about sex with many people. Women, on the other hand, may fantasize about participating in an orgy but it is usually with the same sex or with famous personalities, mainly from the entertainment industry.
3. The invitation to a sex party/club
“One of the greatest fantasies spawned by modern cinema is the much-discussed mystical orgy scene in Stanley Kubrick’s film Eyes Tightly Closed. That is, going in disguise to a sex party/club where everything from voyeurism and exhibitionism to group sex is allowed,” Cox says, setting a tone of negativity for both.
This fantasy seems to include many sexual daydreams together since it covers sex with strangers, sex with masks/role playing, voyeurism and even public sex. All in a tempting and provocative sexual combination.
4. Kinky BDSM sex
A type of sex that is gaining more and more popularity, both with movies like “Fifty Shades of Grey” and the wider genre of romance fiction, in books, series and movies, BDSM sex emphasizes positions of power in sex. A fantasy that is therefore about love games of dominance and submission, controller and controlled with sex that can be described as hard, animalistic and passionate in an aggressive way.
In this dynamic, based on research, we learn that BDSM fantasies strongly involve both sexes, with 93% of women and 81% of men fantasizing about being sexually dominated by someone else, while 85% of men and 76% of women that they have complete control over sex.
5. The realization of a fantasy with his/her partner
Fantasy within fantasy is dreaming of doing something you’ve always wanted to try with your partner. In fact, “fantasizing that you are fulfilling the romantic fantasy that you have had in mind with your other half is a good start to dare to express it and make it from a dream to reality (as long as it does not involve your possible infidelity)”.
6. Sex in a public place
“One of the most common fantasies is one that takes sex out of bed and into the car, the beach/sea/pool, the park, the dark theater/movie theater, where there’s a risk of getting into a fight. In most people’s minds, public sex is adventurous, passion-inducing and adrenaline-pumping. But it is also quite dangerous.” Try it with caution but be sure to enjoy it too!
7. The well-known role-playing
Try sex as other people. Find a new personality and fully embrace it. Wear provocative clothing, professional clothing, or anything else that turns you on. A frequent fantasy that stimulates both the body and the mind, it is definitely worth trying!
